My husband and I got married in March of this past year while he was home on leave from Iraqand we desided that we would have a wedding reception at the end of december, that is just wonderful and all but we are running into some problems with the guest list. I love my mother to pieces but we have had our conflicts. At first it was the fact of not having cousins there, my husband wants them my mother doesn't she wants to keep it small. we got that ironed out and the cousins are now invited, now there is a problem with the cousins bringing thier kids, she says absolutely no. I do not see the problem they are all pretty young and there isn't that many of them. (maybe 5 at the most) My mom is fighting tooth and nail with me on this and throwing in my face that I am showing more support for his family and not my own and then now she is threatening that her and my father will not go. WHat the heck this is suppose to he a fun time not a headache. Anybody out there have any words of wisdom?
She is paying for the wedding but my husband and I have both offered to pay along with his parents. SHe will not get it thru her head that we want to help.

if your moms not paying for the reception tell your mom to but OUT!!!

If Mom is paying for this then she has the right to say something about who gets the invite. No pay no say! Thats how things worked with my sister's wedding. My parents didn't help her with the expenses and they kept out of who got invited.

Who pays the piper, calls the tune.

If she's paying for the wedding, then your mother is right,. You cannot invite everyone and their neighbor and their brood of 5 kids each if she is footing the bill.

What about some consideration of her and her wallet.

It's easier to spend money than to make it princess, and no one likes to be told where to spend their hard earned cash.

If you are paying, then my apologies.

Good luck

This is why I plan on excluding my mother from wedding gown shopping - putting her nose where it does not belong.
However, if your parents are paying for the reception, they are entitled to some say.
If you are including the groom's relatives and not your own, OK - your mom has a point. But it doesn't sound like that at all.
So long as she is not footing the bill, tell her to mind her own business. Fortunately for you, you are already married, the reception is just a party. You will survive if they choose not to come.

I would ask her what her spending limit is. Once she reaches that tell her that you will help with any additional costs the extra people will create.

Or ask his parents if they would be willing to help out a little with some of the costs.

If your mother isn't paying for the wedding you need to tell her to back off and leave you alone.

If your mother is paying, then you really don't have a choice. You can try and fight it, but she has every right to say "no."

As a mother of the bride, I feel for you! Whether she is paying or not its your wedding, easier said than done, I know. Smile agree with her, and do what you want anyhow. I am dealing with a similar issue with grandparents and my daughters wedding.