My hubby and I got married on Monday. This past weekend we had an argument about somethings he was keeping or wanting to keep. He had a couple of things of past g/f's that he had been keeping. I told him that I didnt want any of that stuff in our house that he needed to get rid of them. He began throwing things away but when I told him about his pas wed pics he said he wanted to send them to his mom to see what she wanted to do with them cuz it had him in a tuxedo. I got mad and told him that why would he want to do that if he wanted to marry me and start a new life with me why was he holding on to his past that if he had feeling for her still and he said no that he loved me. And told me that he would throw them away. My ? is why would a guy want to hold on to pics of his past wedding when he is getting married again to someone he loves? I love him and trust him but Im fighting with my ownself about his past cuz he keeps bringing it to future or holding on to it for some reason. Help

If he didn't have children with this other woman and she didn't die from illness while they were married than he has no legitimate reason to keep the photo's nor does his mother.. Tell him and his mom the past is dead bury it..

stop being such a breezy there just pictures he is your man now and that is what matters do you really want to start your marriage off this way? jealousy it is a sickness! my hubby of 6 wonderful years his mothers has pictures of him and all his ex gf i don't care when we go to visit her his sister and i will look at them and laugh cus he had to go through so many losers before he found a winner ME!

Cherrie, Control much?

Did he marry a wife or a mother? Why can't he keep some photos, I mean they are of him as well. It's not like they are going to be displayed in a nice frame in the living room.

Just so you know, when you marry a person with a past, they will have memories and mementos from their life before you. If you wanted a virgin you should have married one. I almost want to ask you if you are stupid? How could you not think that he would have things like this and by the way what gives you the right to tell him what he can keep and what he has to throw away? Do you want to be his mommy?

I hope he is a weak man and doesn't stand up for himself or you two will have a lot of control fights.

Good luck and in the future, know what you want in life before you jump into something that is not what you really want.

Yoda out, sorry for the sarcasm, but really!!

This is part of his history that made him the man that he is today for you.

Get over yourself and get on with your life. Your insecurity and immaturity will crumble your marriage.

He wants to hold on to the pics because weather he or you likes it or not, it was a significant part of his life and could also be a portion of what made him who he is today. I would never want to throw out memories like that. Just because that part of his life is over does not mean that it did not happen

I have plenty of pictures of old flames, from Highschool, college, my sons father, old boy friends,

I keep them for diffrent reasons,

I have jewelry ,

Let me ask you a question,
Do you think he will ever forget about his ex wife?

Do you think YOU will forget about your X's

Stop being so insecure,

Its ONLY a picture, the ROMANCE is hidden in a persons HEART, not in a picture

Because they are his past. We take pictures to remember. Wheather you like it or not, he was married before, and had a wedding.
Why are you so threatened? They are just sentimental reminders. If you are jelous of pictures, you are in trouble.

First of all why do women always assume the man does not love them just because he has some pictures of his past.
That was his first marriage,and I think that you should be alittle more understanding,most women keep pictures of their first marriages and first relationships.It does not mean that they are still in love with that person,it only shows that they grew and they are in a better place in their life right now.There is nothing wrong with keeping pictures,they are just memories that are over.He's with you now so let it go.Don't start off in a bad way.After all he did say he was going to send them to his Mother.