That's very hurtful. Sometimes it's best to just keep things to yourself. Since you can't change the venue if there is anything you can change at this point to be different from her wedding I would go for it. If you could change your colors or style of the wedding...anything to be unique or different at this point you should do so. I wouldn't worry at t his point what people think or say because it won't resolve anything. You don't owe anybody an explanation and I would just let it go so you won't seem petty (even though I understand how yo feel).

My best friend and I were pregnant at the same time and her child was born a month before mine and she gave him the exact first and middle name I was going to name my child. (Amongst other similar things she has done to me like this...I have sim ply learned to keep my mouth shut).

Email me more details of your wedding vs. her wedding and maybe we can put our heads together and make some changes. Remember...SSSHHHH!!!!!