ok long story short..i love love love shoes! i have hundreds of shoes from $20 vintage shop ones to $2000 designer signed ones. so for my wedding i want to get a basic classy white heal but die it a very very light blue (for my some thing blue) my mother thinks this is very tacky and wants me to do white. i figured no one will see them any ways. is this a battle worth fighting with my mother? or should i just find some thing else blue?

it's your shoe. do what you want. your other shoes don't really have anything to do with this, but i guess you thought that was relevant. anyway, your mom can wear whatever shoes she wants to at the wedding. you should have the same opportunity.

Just so you're thinking about it - everyone will see your shoes when you do the garter toss.

I'd say it's definitely a battle not worth fighting - especially if your mother is going to be a stickler on it. I don't know that I'd call it tacky, per se, but it's probably just not worth fighting over.

Maybe you could find a simple white shoe and add a blue ribbon or bow that would help you accomplish all of the above.

Are you going to be able to see the shoes under your dress? If not then I think it's a cute idea and you should tell your mother that you can wear whatever you want. I'm going barefoot under mine.

Hello it's your wedding she wore what she wanted and know it's your turn and your wedding . Let her know it's your day , your way . Wear the shoes of your choice . Enjoy your day because that's what it is YOUR DAY. lol

People will probably catch a glimpse of blue shoe here and there but if that doesnt worry you, then wear them.
Is your mother wearing the shoes? No, so she shouldnt have to make an issue over it. And what a silly, silly, non important thing to be arguing over. At the end of the day, WHO CARES what a bride wears on her feet. She could wear desert boots for all anyone would care.
Just get the blue shoes, stick them in your cupboard and forget about them already.

Yes! Blue shoes are an awesome idea for a wedding! You're absolutely right about them not showing -- yet they're perfect for your "something blue" because of your love of shoes. Rock on!

If you're nervous about them not turning out right (I dyed a dress light pink and it turned out dark purple once!) you might want to get those dyeable shoes where you send in a swatch of fabric and they dye the shoes to match. They do that for bridesmaid dresses.

If you want to DIY, it's good too - don't worry about them too much, though, 'cause they won't show.

As far as telling your mom, just explain that it is important to you that you be yourself and that this is not really something she should have an opinion about. They're your feet -- she won't even see them! If it continues to bother her, just make it clear to her that you will be putting on your shoes in "private" so that you don't "upset" her. Act like a rebellious child sneaking around if you have to. She'll realize how ridiculous of a battle it is and back off.

my older brothers wife had a long dress that cvered her yellow ballerina slippers. you could see them at the reception. not during the wedding, which i think would have been ugly looking. if your dress is long and somewhat covers them i, i dont see why your mom would disapprove THAT much. i agree, it doesn't sound all that great, but its your darn wedding, you do what you want to do. gracefully accept (unwanted) advice and critizism, but dont make any promises. you dont have to answer to anyone or make any excuses on your special day. congrats and best wishes

i say go for it. it's your day. do what makes you happy.
i think it's a cute idea

Do what YOU like. I cannot stress this enough. I had to fight some battles with both the mother and the mother in law, and boy, am I glad I stuck to my guns. Bottom line is -- she'll get over it, and this is your day to shine, so make yourself happy! Just thank her for all her advice, stop discussing it with her, and do what you want. No need for drama.